I meant to do it. Although I played it off as though it was an accident, I brushed against my girlfriend’s hand on purpose. That’s all it took. A moment later we were holding hands, and a few days later we were kissing more than we should.
I remember feeling so much shame.
A few years later, we got married, and I quickly realized that I had bought into a lie. I thought sex was the pinnacle of the pursuit of pleasure, but I was wrong. I discovered that, just as Dr. Archibald Hart suggests, “Pleasure is like a barrel without a bottom. The more you give it, the more it wants.”
The more I pursued pleasure, the more it eluded me.
And then I read about the pleasure center of the brain, and heard Dr. Hart and others talk about the pursuit of pleasure. According to his research among others, the pleasure center of the brain is responsible for all sensual experiences—from the beauty of a sunset, to sexuality, to the taste of one’s favorite foods. When your brain senses pleasure, it floods that part of the brain with chemicals that make your body react in favor to that experience. It’s a pretty neat system, but it can be abused, and that’s where 50 Shades of Grey—or should I say Gimmick—comes in.
If you’re experiencing pleasure in a way that you know to be wrong or is outside of the normal parameters God created, the pleasure center of the brain is flooded with a heavy dose of adrenaline—the king of pleasure. Remember that one time when you gave your 5-year-old chocolate before bed, and instead of sleeping he destroyed your house? Adrenaline has the same effect on the pleasure center of the brain. If you mix pleasure and adrenaline, your body wants more and more. Soon, you can’t experience pleasure without causing a surge of adrenaline, and this leads to many exotic and dangerous behaviors.
50 Shades of Grey is a book series and now movie about distorting pleasure. Although the story claims to be elevating genuine love, it is destroying it. Instead of promoting and uplifting a beautiful relationship between two people, the series advertises a male-dominated, abusive, and sadomasochistic relationship. That is why this post is titled: 50 Shades of Gimmick—because that is what this story is, a gimmick. It’s a trick—a device that promises genuine pleasure, but it instead promotes the destruction of pleasure.
Recently, a Christian lady defended her affinity for 50 Shades of Grey by saying, “I read the books, get fired up for my husband, and then go home and treat him right.” What she doesn’t realize is that she is actually pursuing the opposite result of what she wants. Instead of creating more passion and excitement in the bedroom, she is causing damage.
If you go watch 50 Shades of Grey in the theatre or if you read the books, you will be flooding the pleasure center of the brain with adrenaline. You will be hurting your ability to experience genuine pleasure with your spouse. And, you will be filling your brain with pornographic images that can’t be removed. Those should be the only three reasons you need for avoiding this gimmick all together.
(If you read this post and it was too late. If you’ve read the books or seen the movie. Click here for some encouragement on how you can reverse the damage.)