Day 5… (posted by Jeremiah)
Walt Mueller shared this graphic on his blog yesterday, and I can’t get the stats out of my mind. Please take a moment to really think about the implications of these figures.
I wish I could say that I was part of the 3% of boys who have never seen internet porn, but that wouldn’t be true. I also wish I could say that the internet was my only interaction with porn, but again that would be a lie. I can praise God that I’m no longer stuck in this addictive lifestyle, and for that I am very thankful. But that doesn’t meen I’m somehow above this issue or above the temptation.
Do you remember in the first Star Wars movie, when Han Solo and the gang get stuck in the Death Star’s tractor beam? After they realize their predicament, Han does everything he can to pull back but the pull is too strong. Pornography is literally a tractor beam for the mind and heart. The closer we get to watching, looking at, or listening to porn the stronger it pulls us in. And once we are within it’s grasp — it will pull us down.
I can’t think of another temptation that has a stronger pull or a more deadly grasp on the soul than pornography. Every time I interacted with this stuff, it felt like I was betraying myself and spitting in Jesus’ face, and yet I couldn’t put it down — it felt good. I don’t know that there’s a worse place to be, than knowing you shouldn’t do something and yet not being able to stop. If you are stuck right now, I know how you feel.
Pornography is an addiction that is readily accessible. If you don’t believe me, check out the ads in your local paper. You’ll find at least one chain store (i.e. Target, Kohls, Walmart) that has an entire section on female undergarments, and trust me there is enough there to make a boy stumble. It’s also free on the web in numerous places, and magazines are pretty cheap too. The road to porn is clear and accessible with the turn of a page or a click of a mouse — it’s everywhere.
One of porn’s deadliest characteristics is what I call the “it” mentality. As consumers (and in our culture we are all consumers), we look for lots of “its” to make our lives complete and fulfilled. Want a new car? Go buy it. Want a vanilla latte? Go buy it. Want a book, or a dog, or a computer, or someone to talk to — go get it, it, it, and it and they will make you happy. The “it” mentality is great for an economy, but bad when you apply it to relationships. Porn makes sex an it. And when sex becomes another thing to consume, instead of two people becoming one person — we will begin looking at each other through the eyes of a consumer instead of a lover. It’s already a struggle for me to love my wife without viewing her as an it. Porn makes this struggle impossible to win.
Stay away. If you struggle with porn — get help. Don’t let your shame (porn is great at causing shame) get in the way of freedom. Look at the list of resources at the bottom of Walt Mueller’s blog by clicking here. Another great resource for families to use is Covenant Eyes, which is responsible for the graphic above.
In conclusion, I just want to encourage you with some verses that have encouraged me in this struggle specifically:
1 John 4:4 “Greater is he that is in you, than he that is in the world.”
Isaiah 41:10 “Do not fear for I am with you, do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
Psalm 1 “Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of the wicked, stand in the way of sinners, or sit in the seat of mockers — but his delight is in the law of the Lord and on his law he meditates day and night.”
Why is it so easy to view others with the “it” mentality? You may comment below…
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